What I Know About Marriage
Updated: Aug 31, 2019
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Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
This will apply to all areas of your life as a family. Unity is a Yuge with Jesus [John 17(:i.e. 22)]. It is a lesson God goes to great lengths to ensure we understand. Where two or more are gathered, one can put 1000 to flight, 1Peter3:1,7...
How is it we can fulfill this heart desire of God with so many distractions and disappointments.
Gods Job is to instruct us and ours is to Heed His loving guidance. So when our prayers are not answered we must first ask, "How's my unity at home"? More accurately How can (I) be more understanding with my spouse/children ? Sometimes we fall for the lie that "I have gone as far as I can. The issue is not the issues with your spouse, it is more so your response to the problems they are facing. God goes to great lengths to build our trust in Him even beyond the cross. without trust our relationship with Him is sketchy at best. This is why he orchestrated 66 books and 40 authors to tell a story of how far he went to prove His trustworthiness. "Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God".
That being said, if we don't respond to our spouse in a way that does not build trust in us -particularly in the areas of emotional issues- we lose trust with them and then we lose our communication, Unity, Peace... You get the point. It is hard to win back. 1 Cor 1:7 ...why do ye not rather suffer yourselves to be defrauded? James 4:10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up. "Unless a seed falls to the ground and dies', Do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves. I hate to put this all on you but as I understand it, this is God's Kingdom economy.
I have by no means met with perfection on this issue but what I have seen is that the more time I spend quality time just listening to God's voice the more The more my heart learns how the man Jesus who left His glory in heaven and came to rub elbows with us and live a perfect sinless life with the help of the Holy Spirit, the closer I get to living in peace with my spouse.
Sorry that this wasn't the "3 steps to marital bliss". It was more like Die to Live and more abundantly you shall
I count leave you all with out a testimony. I get flack when I tell folk Ive been married for (5) Five year this June. They typical response is " ooooh, You just wait till(insert jitney of possible thing that "Will" go wrong that will make you embittered with "Marriage" enough to take the shine from the new penny. The truly tragic thing is that those folks have taken their focus from the purpose of marriage all together. That being to glorify God. To take the possible trials that face a Holy union and used them to formulate a bad opinion of it is to shortchange You, your spouse, those who are looking on and most importantly God.
My Daughter from a previous marriage was experiencing some marital woes of her own to the point that she was using the "D" word. She and 3 children (9, 2 and 2months) were due to be houseless and her hubby in prison my wife of only two years suggested that she fly from mainland U.S.A. to a remote island in the middle of the pacific ocean to live with us till she plots a new course. The first thing we did was to take it into prayerful consideration. If a marriage was to be tested this was it. We hadn't even worn the knobs off the tires of our new found love and it seems as if we were going 4 wheeling'. to ad a little spice to the pot, as plans began to be made for my daughters transference, My Former spouse and mother of said transient child was to accompany her to said remote island and stay for 2 weeks. At this point I was acquiescing and need the reassurance of God Himself. My dear sweet wife seemed to take it well. On a cross island excursion for an appointment of mine in an SUV loaded with 3 kids 1 daughter and 1 former spouse, the oil in the transmission disappeared and my wife had to come and rescue us.
Then God. Although things were stressful and slightly awkward, our prayer, commitment to God and each other as husband and wife made it possible for the most amazing part of the first two weeks. my wife and I had studied under a healing evangelist for a number of years and we would convert about it with my daughter and former spouse. Intrigued, she asked if she could receive prayer from the minister. We set up a time and my wife drove her there. Upon picking her up my wife noticed a change in her countenance.The prayer session had gone well and she felt as if a weight had been lifted and her vision problem was corrected. The next words were something along the lines of 'I feel great, now all I need to do is get saved !. slightly shocked my wife said "Why not now" ? So in the parking lot my wife Lead my former wife to Jesus and a few days later I baptized her in the ocean ( no, I did not attempt to drown her).
Although we struggled a little acclimating to a full house, God pulled us all through. After 9 months my daughter decided to give marriage a try again. and went home. she recalls the time spent with us on the island fondly and learned a lot about marriage from watching my wife and I
Keep focused on God.
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.